I Chose To Live

What is it, a life? What does it really boil down to? Minutes. Moments. A collection of tiny pieces, strung together telling a story. Are there winners and losers? I’m not sure, it’s just life. We all certainly fall down at times. But you know what they say about how many times you fall down. Maybe a life is the study of the ups and the downs then, and how one reacts each time out.

Whatever a life is, whatever mine has been…I thought it was over. I’m not trying to be melodramatic, but when you feel like there’s nothing left? That’s got to be it. It’s over.

I didn’t have a specific suicide plan. I never made an attempt. I didn’t really feel like I had to. I felt like I’d already faded away.

Social Anxiety Disorder and depression are conditions I’ve suffered with since I was a young boy. This mental disorder tag team have ruined schooling for me. Relationships. Jobs, you name it.

The hardest blows hit in 2012. My grandmother, who had such a hand in my upbringing lost her battle to cancer. I watched from afar as my mom took care of her, hour by hour. I felt like I did nothing. There were lots of feelings there left unresolved in the end.

As I dealt with the grieving process, my anxiety and depression took over. I missed more and more work on medical leave. Finally, the Walt Disney Company, my dream employer, gave up on me. I lost my job. I lost the friends I took great pride in having made.

I felt like I’d lost it all.

You don’t realize how much of a prisoner you’ve become until all you can see are the steel bars.

Months and months passed without leaving the house. Without being social. Without truly…living.

You get by. You breathe in and out. You take in food and drink. Maybe you even talk to your mom every couple of days. That’s not a life though. That much I’ve figured out.

I’m happy to share that my story doesn’t end there.

After a health scare and a doctors visit, I got hit with wake up call. My health was out of control and I had two options. Change (live) or die. My blood pressure was at high risk, a victim of my stress and 3 liter a day soda addiction. I’d gained close to 30 lbs without even taking the time to notice.

So, I’ve chosen to live.

Three, now, very important people came into my life, in what can only be described as destined happenstance. As a life-long fan of professional wrestling I knew a lot about three time former WCW Champion, Diamond Dallas Page. He was a workhorse, a real Cinderella story of a man who fought his way to the top. I’d always felt a connection to him as the underdog, and as a fellow resident of The Jersey Shore.

Page had created a workout program called DDPYoga, which was focused on getting in shape, without the spiritual side of most common yoga programs. For some reason it always stuck in my mind as something worth trying. Dallas Page is an infectious human being and when he speaks, you listen. And you remember.

So as DDPYoga sat in the back of my brain, I discovered someone who is possibly its greatest success story: Mr. Arthur Boorman. Arthur was an Army paratrooper who had all but become crippled after taking too many jumps, and was forced to walk with canes. For years he lived in agony and gained weight and had high health risks. He too discovered DDPYoga and changed not only his, but many other lives in the process.

Arthur lost over 140 lbs and can now run faster then men half his age. DDPYoga, and DDP in general turned this man’s life around. And the success of his youtube video as inspired countless others.

Then there is Zach Sobiech, a truly inspiring young man. After discovering that he had months, if not days to live, destined to be another cancer victim, Zach did exactly what I need to do. Zach chose to live. He didn’t let his illness stifle him. He brought smiles and joy to all of those whose life he touched. His youtube video of his final days is incredibly inspiring. I challenge anyone to watch it, and not at least for at least a moment reflect on how they are living their lives. Even after his passing, Zach lives on with the work he did in such a short time.

If he could do that, what could I do? What can you do? If Diamond Dallas Page, a man who at 57, was supposed to be crippled after a back-breaking wrestling career could inspire himself and improve his health, what can I do at 35? If then, in turn, he could inspire thousands of others, including Arthur Boorman to not only improve their health, but to change their lives, to OWN their lives, what can I do? If Zach Sobiech would live when he was supposed to be dying, what I can I do?

I can live.

I will live.

I am living.

My goal with this blog, and my new life plan is simple: I’m going to live my life. I need to get my physical and mental health in order. I need to lose those nasty 30 lbs I adopted. And I need to get out of the prison that is my anxiety. I need to get out of the house.

I want to feel normal. I want to provide for my partner and our kitten. I want to be proud of the person I am.

DDP says you need to own your life. And that’s true. That lead me to understand that life is not a rental. It’s not an opportunity to mess around and start over again at the end. This is it, right now. It’s my time, and I’m going to live it.


3 thoughts on “I Chose To Live

  1. Hi Brian,

    I found your blog through Facebook. You had linked it to Rob (DDP Yoga Vs. Rob). I had to check it out for myself! I’m also doing DDP yoga right now. I found your story inspirational.

    I also feel your pain. Last summer I lost my grandpa (who was my best friend when I was a child) and my great grandma (her son) about two weeks apart. I hit rock bottom and stayed there for quite a few months. Like you, I suffer from all kinds of anxieties as well. I have OCD and some form of social anxiety.

    I haven’t been doing the workouts regularly. Our city flooded and my cat became violently ill over the last few days, but reading your blog has given me some motivation. Thank you for sharing your story!

    Keep doing what you’re doing. You are on the right path!

    • Hi Amber! First off, thank you so much for taking the time to read. I found it really difficult to write, even though I wasn’t sure if anyone would read it. So I figured at the very least, to write it for myself (still quite difficult!) lol

      I am so sorry for your losses. That must have been a nightmare losing them so close together. How long ago was that?

      I’m a big cat guy, so you have my complete sympathy. Mine has been a lil bugger today but I can’t imagine anything happening to him. Sending positive thoughts for you and you cat. What city or area are you in? Is your house ok. Hoping for the best for you.

      You stay strong and DO NOT get down on yourself if you can’t do the workouts or aren’t feeling it. It happens to all of us, and will happen again down the line. Just keep your resolve. And feel free to follow me here or on TeamDDPyoga if you’d like a new friend! We’re really all in this together.


  2. I’m proud of you, B. I know that this must’ve been a difficult first step, putting it all out there, so raw and real. Wishing you much success as you embrace the changes that will make you whole again.

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